As we have all heard and those who live it, parenting is hard. There are days when you lose your mind and days when you lack sleep and feel half alive (like today). It’s so easy to harp on the negative, to think about all the things not done… the forever accumulating to do list. The challenges, the exhaustion, the LAUNDRY… ugh.
The key to achieving a more calm state, one I need constant reminding of, is to accept and on top of that… ENJOY. There is magic to this time, to every age of a child, to every experience in family. I find myself sometimes rushing the years ahead in my mind… oh I can’t wait until Little Man doesn’t need to get picked up constantly when I’m trying to make dinner, or Little Lady doesn’t need help with homework or endless answers to the constant chatter. Moments later I think… there will be a day when they don’t need or want me like they do now. I get glimpses when my daughter is sassy pants and wants to be left alone…. When you think about your own adult self and the independence you have now, it’s crazy to think you ever NEEDED anyone to survive… right? But we did, we all needed someone. If we were lucky enough, we had parents that loved and supported us… even amidst yelling and stress and jobs and LIFE.. they were there.
So I strive for this and to not MISS the magic happening right now. The sweet way my daughter still believes in the Easter Bunny, Tooth Fairy, and Santa…and adamantly defends them to the older kids at after care that tell her they are fake. She loves the magic still, the princesses and everything that entails… she’s so innocent and sweet… and even when I was yelling my head off today, she patted my arm and said “It’s OK Mama” with her big blue eyes shining up at me. I really hope she never loses that, that inclination to lean towards compassion instead of anger. I pray she passes it onto her little brother who adores her and smiles every time she is near. The magic between the two of them is already palpable.
So many moments can just pass us by if we don’t take notice to them.. if we don’t allow ourselves to feel them. Not all of them will be rosy or end well. I think that’s OK too, life isn’t a fairy tale, but it’s real and amazing and getting hung up on the small stuff is just not worth it.
Take your moment today and flip it around… be appreciative of the hug at the end of the fight, the compassion you extended or that was extended to you… take the good feeling away, don’t hold onto the hurtful one… smile. Take the approach to the day in which you live, laugh, and love. I promise I’ll do the same… the world could use it.